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How do I overcome attachment issues?

Last Updated: 18.06.2025 11:04

How do I overcome attachment issues?

No attachment anywhere. Not even family. I will not get used or threatened when it comes to family. We're blessed. My grandchildren are awesome. They are black belts and can knock you out. Smarter than most. It runs in the family. Oh not one thing is wrong with them. 😂 II have more laughter in my family. They have been warned by me and my son. I chose to separate my family for reasons. I chose not to be close to my grandchildren. All this so a stupid crazy medical professionals can't get them. I'm happy no one knows where they are. I'm happy they are bosses. I don't think anyone has a chance to tell them that they aren't loved. I love from a far. That's how I promise you I have the Holy Spirit. Not to mention my life. I'm glad I lived to tell not only here but everywhere. Don't use my inheritance for anything. I've got some and won't claim it. For it to be stolen. I stepped out of my house today. Was gone maybe 30 minutes. They came into my room and decided to see what they could take. No biggie but.they didn't have toilet paper. They took some of mine. They waited for me to leave and decided to go into my room and decided to take. The person who hates everyone here asked ME where I was moving. The nerve. I've prayed for him. Not much honestly but, I have. I'm real not fake. I told you this stuff because I have no attachment. My life doesn't permit me to have One. I tried to. I was with him for almost 20 years. In those 20 years we disagreed twice. We understood each other's boundaries and never had an argument. He actually gave me more wisdom than anyone that wasn't blood related. I'm not jealous now. It's a relief. I had freedom with him. He wasn't pushy. He let me do whatever I wanted. The trust was better than nothing. I never asked him about his past and he never mine. It wasn't a godly relationship but, I learned from it. I'm glad we never married. Neither wanted to. He told me secrets he had never told before. I am aware of the Catholic Church because of him. He knew more about them. I learned from him. WOW I don't confess to anyone about anything. I don't have to. Sometimes the priests turn people in for crimes. They aren't allowed to be a part of my life anymore. The things are monsterous. OMG I won't let anyone touch my forehead for any reason. They are mentioned im newspapers and they hate people to bring them out in the open. Right now the church in any denominations are in question. I've walked out of them because I have seen spirits in them. The church I have to say is not what I expected. People I knew would have sex with anyone and go to church on Sundays and pretend to be a Saint. The same ones that their souls are in question for lieing about me to the preacher. He had a wife. I'm wondering what has become of that church. Here in MS. Small town where everybody wasn't honest. One manager of an apartment complex was arrested for abuse of the elderly. I'm glad to. Not a nice person. I hope she can never work as a boss or over any people that would call her out. I was that person. She was evil. She had a lot against whites. Never an honest choice. I hope she was exposed. I pray for any officers that have been removed. I hope you all make honest decisions about people and not judge. One policeman asked me to work with him. He knew what he was doing. I explained my situation and he then knew I couldn't. He walked me to my door and was a complete gentleman. This is the first police officer I have met that was decent. I'm glad to have known him. I would have done a better job thanost. I went to join a police department when I first got back to the States. Took the psycological exam and came in second out of 35 people. The one that came in first had been in the military. It was a woman. There were only two of us. The others were men. Come to find out some of them turned and chose to well needless to say. This is to much.

Attachment to who? I don't depend on anyone just good people surrounding me now. For 45 to 50 years I have been around some of the most dangerous people I have ever met. I was like a magnet because I laughed and had fun. I was allowed to be myself. None of them judged me or anything. The only reason I got angry with them is that they stole some gold I had. That man that controlled the neighborhood I saw much later in life. He use to wear more gold than I had ever seen on one person He had been stripped from his property, his money and was in a wheelchair and being made fun of. I never told him I knew him and he didn't remember me.I guess he shouldn't have punched a white man in the mouth and knocked out his teeth. I told you when God works he makes things Happen. I never knew his real name. And he ordered someone to hit me with a bat just because I wouldn't sit with him. The girl didn't do anything because I told her if I got that bat out of her hands she would not be able to speak to anyone. In those days I could have removed the bat from her easily. Yeah. I always took up for myself. I didn't wait for the officers because of the neighborhood. I was almost set up by people once. They told me to leave so they could come in my place and make arrests. I saved the ones in my house. They weren't doing anything wrong but having fun. Drinking beer. I was the only one not drinking. I don't drink. If you think this is attachment I was never to attached with unlawful people. Just kept my mouth shut. They are a lot more funny than serious people. I laughed at them and drove around until one of them told me he was in a stolen car. A Lexus. I told the driver to take me to my car. I wanted out. I've actually had to jump a car off with the owner who lost his keys. He didn't know how. I did. Now computers in vehicles canake it's own mind up. Computers talk to each other today.when I buy a car I will never have anything running with maps. People can scope you out. I rarely use maps. Of course, I don't drive anymore. I won't either. I refuse to. If you ever call a person SOB. You might get killed for it. Not a popular speech for anyone. I'm glad I'm a straight shot with any weapon. I just won't carry a gun. They attrack to much attention. I could actually carry one if I chose to as long as it is visible. The first time I held a handgun was a perfect kick. If you don't know how to hold a gun don't use one.

My father told me when you expose a gun shoot to kill. My first weapon was a rifle. I was 15years old. Not here in the United States We went out and had fun. I had the best memories of him.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.